Grieving from The couch

Today feels especially heavy. No reason. It just does. As I sit on the couch, I’m overwhelmed by confusion, frustration, and a sense of being misunderstood. But isn’t this what grief feels like? It doesn’t ask for permission—it shows up unexpectedly, in the form of an email, a phone call, or an unexpected change in plans.

This week’s challenge for myself was: "If you find yourself complaining, pause. Take ownership of your reality and approach it with a solution-oriented mindset." But... what if there’s room for anger? For frustration? What if I don’t feel like seeking solutions or forcing gratitude?

And maybe that’s the reminder I need to hear today: it doesn’t always have to be hope, resilience, or growth. Sometimes, it’s simply about feeling what I need to feel—anger, sadness, frustration—and giving myself the space to sit with it. These more confrontational feelings are part of the journey too.

So, as I sit here, I give myself permission to simply be—exactly as I am, in this moment. No need for immediate fixes or the pressure to “move forward.” Just being.

I invite you to do the same. To allow yourself to not always be the hopeful, resilient version of yourself the world expects. Grief, like everything else, has its own timeline, and sometimes that means sitting with the harder emotions without the need to change them right away.

Take care of your heart this week.